What defines “romance?”
Like most other things, there is what’s on the surface.
Then there is what’s underneath.
If you try and fake the surface level stuff without having the underlying energy, it usually doesn’t work.
Think of a really crappy movie with crappy actors.
Or even a movie with a decent plot, but with crappy actors.
That’s how fake, surface level romance comes across.
The “stuff” is there, the “words” are there, but the energy isn’t.
This is what happens when people use romance as a tool.
Especially without feeling it.
On the other hand, if you are feeling it, and you are still using it from a surface structure, “tool” level, it will work.
But not because of the surface level stuff, but because of the underlying energy.
But you can also be romantic without needing any of the surface level stuff.
Plenty of movie show this pretty well.
The romantic idea is delivered as an act, especially one that demonstrates a “knowing” of what’s important to the target.
The romantic “act” demonstrated to the target that the actor recognized and remembered something important to the target.
And they recognized it, appreciated it, and remembered it.
Anybody can buy flowers and chocolates.
That’s why they will never work if they aren’t really “honest.”
What WILL work is if you see something about your love interest that is unique to them.
Something unique they shared.
Something that you recognized as important to them.
It could be their secret dreams for the future.
Or it could be some weird preference they have for pizza topping.
But when you DEMONSTRATE this knowledge, it speaks volumes.
Your ACTION (never, ever your words) say:
I see you. I appreciate you. I get you. I like you. I remember you.
This is free, this is relatively easy, and it absolutely CANNOT be faked.
And the more of these “golden nuggets” of “information” you have about your target, the more powerful their sporadic and unexpected delivery will be.
You won’t need to spend a nickel and he or she will think you’re the most romantic person on Earth.