I remember the first time I heard Alice Cooper.
I was at a beach party, in high school.
With a bunch of people I worked with.
Some guy had a boombox and was playing “18,” a famous Cooper song.
The theme was being on the border between being and being a man.
Confused, angry, not sure what to do.
The transition from childhood to adult hood is a long one.
Most of us never make it completely.
The most common childhood model of getting our needs met is asking and waiting for it to be given to us.
The most effective method as an adult is USUALLY to figure out how to get it on our own.
Usually by working with other people.
But for many, the childhood model works fantastic in adulthood.
It’s easy, and lots of those in power LOVE that we continue to use that model.
Because the “giver” has all the power over the “receiver.”
Especially if the “receiver” doesn’t know how to otherwise get it.
On a much bigger scale, the human race is on the border between “childhood” and “adulthood.”
On a whole species level, you can say that humans in our infancy (as a whole, not individually) and are driven by instincts.
Instincts drive us so we don’t have to think.
We eat whenever there is food.
We have sex whenever there is an opportunity.
We are utterly dependent on social signals.
It’s nearly impossible to leave our instincts behind.
I always think of that when I watch Alien TV shows.
In modern earth society, nearly 40% of adults are obese.
But aliens are always skinny.
So I always wonder how those fictional aliens managed to leave their instincts behind.
As individuals, one of the indications of how “civilized” we are is how we can effectively manage our instincts.
Take hunger, for example.
If you are a slave to hunger, you eat anything and everything.
But if you can manage hunger, you can plan what you eat.
Make sure it’s enjoyable and healthy.
It requires a big of delayed gratification, and a lot of practice.
But it’s definitely possible.
If you’ve ever put off having a good meal until you were finished with something important, you know this.
Planning to enjoy your food successfully is MUCH BETTER than letting food control you.
All of our instincts are this way.
They can control us, or we can control them.
Most people only recognize that this is possible with food.
But it is possible with ALL of our instincts.
Including the most IMPORTANT one.