Category Archives: Conversational Hypnosis

One BILLION Dollars!

One of the paradoxes of being assertive is what we think we’ll happen.

This is due to the very squirrely nature of our brain.

We want something, we are scared of doing it, but we don’t like to admit we’re scared of doing it.

Since that would make us feel bad on an ego-level, we use all kinds of biases and cognitive dissonance to reframe what’s going on around us.

Often times we’ll be in a situation where somebody asks us a favor, and we don’t think much of it.

And then they ask another favor, and we go ahead and help them.

But the third time they ask, we’re starting to feel like they are taking advantage of us.

But since we didn’t say anything the first time, it’s hard to speak up now.

And in those few situations where we do speak up, it’s hard to maintain our cool.

Being assertive means to plainly say, “no,” without needing to give a reason.

But there are other ways.

Easier ways.

And even more playful ways that are not only just as effective, but may even enhance the relationship.

Instead of just going along with any unexpected requests, ask what you get in return.

From the askers point of view, this is very hard to argue with.

Unless they are your direct boss (or a cop) they aren’t going to say:

“What do you mean what do you get? Your job is to obediently serve me!”

The opposite usually happens.

Especially if you ask playfully.

Simply state their request back, to make sure you understand.

That will make them feel good, since you’re demonstrating that you’re actually paying attention to what they said.

Then playfully say, “Ok, after I do that, what will I get?”

This presupposes you will fulfill their request, and that they’ll give you something in return.

They won’t have anticipated this, but they will enjoy the question.

It implies an ongoing “tit for tat” relationship.

It’s also a good way screen out freeloaders.

You can even playfully put them on the spot.

Since they won’t have anticipated that response, they’ll usually (and honestly) ask, “What do you want?”

To which you can reply:

“One BILLION dollars!”

And say it like Dr. Evil from Austin Powers (making sure you put a lot of emphasis on the “B”).

This will do a lot of things.

One is it will send a clear message that you are not a pushover.

Two is it will make it much more fun to “defend your boundaries.”

Three is they will honestly feel obligated to return the favor.

This is a very playful way to deal with folks you suspect are trying to sneak past your boundaries.

There are plenty others.

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Weaponized Hypnosis

Release The Hounds

Give them an inch and they’ll take a mile.

Everybody wants stuff.

And everybody has to do stuff to get stuff.

This is true on a pure energy level.

You’ve got to move your body to get food.

We have deep and ancient instincts to make sure we eat more calories than we burn.

Our body fat is a helpful energy storage system.

Like our own private energy savings account.

To help this, we all have these programs in the back of our mind that are always running.

So we (or rather our subconscious) is always on the lookout for shortcuts.

Ways to get more stuff with less effort.

You might say this deep programming is responsible for all the inventions we have.

Normally this is a very good thing.

But sometimes it works against us.

Because that same program (get more stuff with less effort) isn’t just for physical stuff, it’s for everything.

Every time we are negotiating a sales price, for example, both sides want to maximize what they get and minimize what they give.

This also happens in relationships.

All relationships.

Friends, lovers, family members

We all have that deep programming that says “get more with less effort.”

This is the heart of all emotional abuse.

Somebody wants something from you.

So they first try to get it for free.

If that doesn’t work, they’ll get it as cheaply as they can.

This is when they slightly test your boundaries.

Kind of like a couple of cat burglars sneaking around the outside of your house.

They’re checking if you have a dog or an alarm system.

Once they get up close, (and realize you have no dog or alarm system) the next step is to look around for an open window.

This is what people do when they carefully test your boundaries.

Some people are respectful and polite, and don’t do this.

They are the types who spend a lot of conscious effort so they don’t offend others.

But some people aren’t like that.

Their only guideline is “don’t get caught.”

And most of the time they don’t.

They slightly test everybody.

Those that push back, they leave alone.

But those that don’t, they remember.

And ever so slightly, keep carefully and subtly pushing against their boundaries.

Some do it just for the thrill.

Others want your money, your sex, or your compliance.

Luckily, guard dogs and alarms systems are easy to install.

Metaphorically, this means understanding the linguistic structure of their covert attacks.

Then you can be like Mr. Burns on The Simpsons.

Super rich guy with a huge house on a huge piece of property.

He would watch people walk onto his property via close circuit TV.

Once they got in close enough, he would give the order.

“Release the hounds.”

You can do the same.

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Weaponized Hypnosis

How To Be Romantic

What defines “romance?”

Like most other things, there is what’s on the surface.

Then there is what’s underneath.

If you try and fake the surface level stuff without having the underlying energy, it usually doesn’t work.

Think of a really crappy movie with crappy actors.

Or even a movie with a decent plot, but with crappy actors.

That’s how fake, surface level romance comes across.

The “stuff” is there, the “words” are there, but the energy isn’t.

This is what happens when people use romance as a tool.

Especially without feeling it.

On the other hand, if you are feeling it, and you are still using it from a surface structure, “tool” level, it will work.

But not because of the surface level stuff, but because of the underlying energy.

But you can also be romantic without needing any of the surface level stuff.

Plenty of movie show this pretty well.

The romantic idea is delivered as an act, especially one that demonstrates a “knowing” of what’s important to the target.

The romantic “act” demonstrated to the target that the actor recognized and remembered something important to the target.

And they recognized it, appreciated it, and remembered it.

Anybody can buy flowers and chocolates.

That’s why they will never work if they aren’t really “honest.”

What WILL work is if you see something about your love interest that is unique to them.

Something unique they shared.

Something that you recognized as important to them.

It could be their secret dreams for the future.

Or it could be some weird preference they have for pizza topping.

But when you DEMONSTRATE this knowledge, it speaks volumes.

Your ACTION (never, ever your words) say:

I see you. I appreciate you. I get you. I like you. I remember you.

This is free, this is relatively easy, and it absolutely CANNOT be faked.

And the more of these “golden nuggets” of “information” you have about your target, the more powerful their sporadic and unexpected delivery will be.

You won’t need to spend a nickel and he or she will think you’re the most romantic person on Earth.

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Love Hypnosis

How To Develop Secret Word Power

When I was very young, my sister and I decided to make a pizza.

It’s my earliest memory of cooking.

I don’t remember exactly HOW we made it.

I just remember two things.

Before we made it, we thought it was going to be AWESOME.

But after we made it, it tasted like crap.

I guess we were too young to know about things called “recipes” and that certain foods go well together and some don’t.

We just piled a bunch of stuff on a piece of bread and put it in the toaster oven.

Yuck!

Most of reality has a structure. Laws of chemistry and physics, how atoms are put together.

If you’re a farmer you’ve got have the right soil, weather, climate, etc.

If you planted the wrong seeds in the wrong dirt at the wrong time of year in the wrong climate, you wouldn’t get a tomato plant.

You probably wouldn’t get anything, except maybe frustrated.

But humans have been growing things for a LONG time.

And they’ve slowly changed the way the grow things.

For example, if you look at corn from a couple thousand years ago, it looks TOTALLY different than today.

This is BEFORE any GMO engineering.

This is just smart farmers playing around with different seeds in different places in different amounts.

This is the cool thing about our reality.

It does have structure, but within that structure is a lot of flexibility.

All of the stuff humans has invented is proof of this.

But you don’t have to be an inventor to play around with the rules of reality.

You can do it with the words you use.

Most people don’t think about the words they use, or the thoughts they think that they try to describe with the words they use.

They just have a bunch of jumbled thoughts, and they turn those thoughts into a stream of jumbled up words.

If you listen carefully, most of these “thoughts into word streams” sound pretty similar.

But if you take a little of time to come up with slightly different thoughts, and use some carefully crafted words to DESCRIBE those slightly different thoughts.

You can have a LOT of fun with people.

And get them thinking and even doing some pretty crazy things.

People will think you have secret X-Men powers or something.

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Infinite Candy Supply

When I was a kid it was “cool” to have a couple of Pez dispensers.

Pez was a kind of candy, that you stacked up inside a plastic character.

You’d pull the head back, and it would spit out a candy out of it’s mouth.

They had TONS of different characters. Cartoon characters, superheroes, movie stars, etc.

In covert hypnosis, there’s an idea of “embedded commands.”

It’s one of the more popular (and easy to understand) part of covert hypnosis.

But most people don’t really use them correctly.

I recently watched a highly polished sales video for this kitchen gadget.

I always enjoy reverse engineering those things just to see how much “NLP” is really in there. (Usually not a lot).

And for this highly polished sales video, where they obviously spent a TON of money, how many embedded commands do you think the actor used?

One.

And it was the LAMEST one. The one that EVERYBODY knows.

And he said so obviously, so blatantly, it pretty much ruined it.

It was the famous, “buy now,” command.

“Buy now, you’re realize how powerful this radioactive oven can help you…”

I could only shake my head and chuckle.

Because when you take the time to LEARN EMBEDDED COMMANDS, you’ll be more effective than the top salespeople.

How do you use them correctly?

You need to use a LOT of them, in a row.

Start with easy commands and then slowly move to the harder ones.

(Unlike the goof in the video whose ONLY command was “buy now.”)

But there’s another way.

A much more powerful way.

And that is to use THEIR words in command form.

Here’s an OVERLY SIMPLE example.

Let’s say you ask you buddy what they want in life.

They say they want to become a doctor.

You ask why.

They say they want to “help people.”

That short phrase, “help people,” is ALREADY in the PERFRECT FORM to be used as an embedded command.

Which you can use a few minutes later, wrapped in your ideas.

“When you [follow my advice] you’ll find it’s a great way to HELP PEOPLE because [reason].”

And when you fire off the command, you use a spatial anchor.

One you’ve previously set to mean “something good.”

Here’s the best part.

How many “embedded commands” can you get out of people, when asking them what they want?

INFINITE.

Because we all have unlimited wants. And each want can EASILY be expressed in PERFECT embedded command form.

I want to “verb + object.”

I want to HELP PEOPLE.

I want to MAKE MORE MONEY.

I want to BECOME MORE ATTRACTIVE.

I want to EAT PEANUT BUTTER.

Etc.

You can think of these as Pez candies inside people.

And your job is to open them up.

And get them to spit them out like crazy.

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Knock Three Times For Luck

We humans are pretty goofy with our superstitions.

There’s a pretty funny TV show where a guy was staying at his friends house.

The friend’s name was Charlie. Charlie’s mom came downstairs to lock the front door, and then turn out the lights.

But she did everything in threes.

Meaning she locked and unlocked the door three times. Turned the light off and on three times.

Each time counting, “one, two, three.”

Finally Charlie’s friend asked Charlie’s mom why she did that.

“So Charlie doesn’t die,” she said matter-of-factly.

Charlie shrugged, like it was no big deal.

While that was a pretty funny scene, we humans are pretty crazy when it comes to superstitions.

Like “knock on wood,” which means “good luck” originates from back when they thought evil spirits lived in trees, and by knocking the tree, you’d chase away the bad spirits.

Scientists believe that we humans “connect” feelings and emotions to things pretty easily.

It helped us survive when we had to chase food, and sometimes food chased us.

Back in those days, you couldn’t afford to sit around and reason things out.

Yet here we are, connecting goofy feelings to things that don’t really make sense.

Of course, you can use this if you want.

(Just be careful!)

One way is to get people talking about things they really want.

Their ideal future. How they imagine it happening.

The more you get them speaking in specific detail (using their ideas and their words) the better they’ll feel.

And you can easily “connect” those good feelings to pretty much anything you want.

So long as you aren’t overtly cheating them, they’ll love you.

Especially if you’re selling anything.

Why?

Because if the product is anywhere close to being a good fit, they’ll ALWAYS associate it with their deepest desires.

Of course, you don’t need to use this to sell things.

If you just want them to feel really good, and associate those good feelings with you, it will work just as well.

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Top Secret Charisma Technique

Everybody would like to BE charismatic.

And many (certainly not all) people who consider themselves introverts would like to be more “extroverted,” at least in some situations.

One of the things that messes us up is our instincts.

The easiest to understand is hunger.

It worked great back in the day when we had to hunt for our food.

But today when there are fast food places all over, it’s not such a great asset.

Many of our instincts are like that.

They were designed for the OPPOSITE kind of society that we live in.

How we communicate to others is a perfect example.

Back then, there wasn’t much to talk about.

Since our lives were fairly limited.

Only in the last few hundred years has the amount of STUFF exploded.

Imagine what it must have been like only a few hundred years ago.

Suppose you lived on a farm. What would you daydream about?

You wouldn’t have NEARLY as much stuff in your experience, so you wouldn’t be able to daydream about much.

If you were lucky, you might have had access to books with pictures.

But today, with all the wicked special effects and rapidly advancing technology, we can use THAT stuff to start from.

Which means we can imagine quite a bit.

Which means when you talk to OTHER people about the stuff they like to IMAGINE, you can get them pretty fired up.

But it involves talking to people OPPOSITE of how our monkey brains are wired.

Our egos want to impress them with US and OUR STUFF.

That’s kind of the equivalent if our ancient hunger instinct wanting to eat everything in sight.

It sort of “feels good” but at the same time we sort of suspect it’s not the best strategy.

Luckily, flipping our “conversation switch” to a more modern, effective approach is WAY EASIER than flipping our hunger switch.

All you’ve got to do is FORGET about YOU, and ask about THEM.

And they’ll get fired up, excited to finally talk in detail about the stuff they want.

They’ll remember YOU associated with those feelings.

Which means you can sort of “sneak your way” into their brains as an ultra-charismatic person.

Even if you are an introvert.

Giving you the best of both worlds.