Give them an inch and they’ll take a mile.
Everybody wants stuff.
And everybody has to do stuff to get stuff.
This is true on a pure energy level.
You’ve got to move your body to get food.
We have deep and ancient instincts to make sure we eat more calories than we burn.
Our body fat is a helpful energy storage system.
Like our own private energy savings account.
To help this, we all have these programs in the back of our mind that are always running.
So we (or rather our subconscious) is always on the lookout for shortcuts.
Ways to get more stuff with less effort.
You might say this deep programming is responsible for all the inventions we have.
Normally this is a very good thing.
But sometimes it works against us.
Because that same program (get more stuff with less effort) isn’t just for physical stuff, it’s for everything.
Every time we are negotiating a sales price, for example, both sides want to maximize what they get and minimize what they give.
This also happens in relationships.
Friends, lovers, family members
We all have that deep programming that says “get more with less effort.”
This is the heart of all emotional abuse.
Somebody wants something from you.
So they first try to get it for free.
If that doesn’t work, they’ll get it as cheaply as they can.
This is when they slightly test your boundaries.
Kind of like a couple of cat burglars sneaking around the outside of your house.
They’re checking if you have a dog or an alarm system.
Once they get up close, (and realize you have no dog or alarm system) the next step is to look around for an open window.
This is what people do when they carefully test your boundaries.
Some people are respectful and polite, and don’t do this.
They are the types who spend a lot of conscious effort so they don’t offend others.
But some people aren’t like that.
Their only guideline is “don’t get caught.”
And most of the time they don’t.
They slightly test everybody.
Those that push back, they leave alone.
But those that don’t, they remember.
And ever so slightly, keep carefully and subtly pushing against their boundaries.
Some do it just for the thrill.
Others want your money, your sex, or your compliance.
Luckily, guard dogs and alarms systems are easy to install.
Metaphorically, this means understanding the linguistic structure of their covert attacks.
Then you can be like Mr. Burns on The Simpsons.
Super rich guy with a huge house on a huge piece of property.
He would watch people walk onto his property via close circuit TV.
Once they got in close enough, he would give the order.
“Release the hounds.”
You can do the same.