Everybody would like to BE charismatic.
And many (certainly not all) people who consider themselves introverts would like to be more “extroverted,” at least in some situations.
One of the things that messes us up is our instincts.
The easiest to understand is hunger.
It worked great back in the day when we had to hunt for our food.
But today when there are fast food places all over, it’s not such a great asset.
Many of our instincts are like that.
They were designed for the OPPOSITE kind of society that we live in.
How we communicate to others is a perfect example.
Back then, there wasn’t much to talk about.
Since our lives were fairly limited.
Only in the last few hundred years has the amount of STUFF exploded.
Imagine what it must have been like only a few hundred years ago.
Suppose you lived on a farm. What would you daydream about?
You wouldn’t have NEARLY as much stuff in your experience, so you wouldn’t be able to daydream about much.
If you were lucky, you might have had access to books with pictures.
But today, with all the wicked special effects and rapidly advancing technology, we can use THAT stuff to start from.
Which means we can imagine quite a bit.
Which means when you talk to OTHER people about the stuff they like to IMAGINE, you can get them pretty fired up.
But it involves talking to people OPPOSITE of how our monkey brains are wired.
Our egos want to impress them with US and OUR STUFF.
That’s kind of the equivalent if our ancient hunger instinct wanting to eat everything in sight.
It sort of “feels good” but at the same time we sort of suspect it’s not the best strategy.
Luckily, flipping our “conversation switch” to a more modern, effective approach is WAY EASIER than flipping our hunger switch.
All you’ve got to do is FORGET about YOU, and ask about THEM.
And they’ll get fired up, excited to finally talk in detail about the stuff they want.
They’ll remember YOU associated with those feelings.
Which means you can sort of “sneak your way” into their brains as an ultra-charismatic person.
Even if you are an introvert.
Giving you the best of both worlds.