It’s been said that there are two great tragedies in life.
Not achieving your goals, and achieving them.
What in the world does this mean?
If you achieve them, it feels cool for a while. But then what? Contrary to popular desires, having something isn’t nearly as rewarding as pursuing something.
So long as that something is big and important to you, for your own reasons.
Humans feel on purpose in the pursuit.
That’s when we feel most alive.
So when we get to a point where we finally get there, we lose that feeling of being “on purpose.”
On the other hand, if we ever have to face a reality that our goals are absolutely unobtainable, that sucks even more.
One of the crazy ways this plays out is with females and relationships.
Women are hard wired to chase, but not quite get.
So when they “get” (or think they get) it messes everything up.
This story plays out again and again.
Girl is attracted to a guy. Girl chases guy, and “gets” him. Then she “domesticates” him.
But once he’s “domesticated,” she no longer feels the thrill of the chase, or the “spark of romance” in the relationship.
She has him, but it’s not the same as ALMOST having him.
She gets bored, and she starts to look elsewhere for the same excitement.
The poor guy, of course, has no idea what’s going on.
How can you avoid this?
Never let her “fully” catch you.
ALWAYS be chasing something, so she always has to chase you.
Don’t ruin it (for both of you) by letting her catch you.
Always have something big that you’re pursuing.
Even if it’s decades out in the future.
If you have something HUGE (according to you) that you are pursuing, this is the most attractive thing a woman can find.
A Driven Man who has big plans for his life.
She’ll test you, she’ll want to control you, but deep down, she WANTS to keep chasing you.
Let her, and always be one step ahead.