Once you are in the beginning stages of dating a girl, there is a LOT of uncertainty.
How often to text, when to text, what to say, when to call.
It can help to understand a couple of things.
One is she has absolutely no control of how she feels about you.
If humans could control our feelings, none of us would be overweight. We would simply decide to not be hungry.
Or there wouldn’t be such a wide range of food available.
If we could control how we felt, we could simply “decide” to enjoy a protein shake as much as a cheeseburger. Then we would all be skinny and there would be no need for any fast food restaurants.
Luckily, this isn’t the case.
What determines her feelings for you?
Think about music. They say that the space in between the notes are just as important as the notes themselves.
Take Beethoven’s Moonlight Sonata. Change the tempo and cram all the notes in a few seconds. It would sound horrendous.
What makes it so beautiful is HOW the notes are spaced out.
So in the beginning, HOW you space yourself out (your communication with her) is JUST as important as what you say and do when you are with her.
Here’s the second important idea.
All of human instincts were baked into our DNA when we were hunter gatherers.
When there were no phones, no way to communicate other than face to face talking (or grunting or whatever).
For a caveman’s ENTIRE LIFE, a guy and his girl were ALWAYS APART during the day WITHOUT communication.
Sometimes days at a time.
Which means if you are going to create attraction that resonates with her deep self, texting is going to hurt much more likely than it’s going to help.
Of course, this is VERY HARD to do (not text) when you’re totally into her.
This is why it’s a good idea to NOT CHASE girls. Instead, get them to chase you.
How do you do that?
Build a huge dream for yourself. Something YOU are chasing your entire life.
This will change your behavior and communication style in a dramatic way.
Girls will notice this. And then you’ll notice them noticing them.
Then you can just pick from whichever you want, and let her chase you.
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