What does “meaning” mean?
It’s a squishy concept.
It’s worse because some meanings are “easier” to accept than others.
Just like some food is “easier” to eat than others.
For example, if you’re hungry, there’s a couple things to consider.
One is how “easily” you can get the food.
Another is how “good” it will taste.
A third is how “healthy” the food is.
But since the “healthy-ness” of the food is not dependent on ONE single meal, it’s easy to dismiss.
So let’s say that in our hypothetical example, “healthy-ness” is a concern, but not a very big one.
So we’ve got two choices.
A big juicy cheeseburger (or your favorite fast food) which can be in your hands in less then five minutes.
OR you could go the grocery store, buy the ingredients, and cook something that’s as tasty, and a little bit healthier.
The cheeseburger is the EASIER choice.
But it’s also pretty clear that there is a better choice, that is also MORE DIFFICULT.
It’s the same with meaning.
The meaning we give to events when there is no way to really KNOW what the meaning is.
You smile at somebody and they don’t smile back.
What does that “mean?”
The EASY meaning is that they aren’t interested or attracted to you.
It doesn’t require a lot of brainpower. (Like eating the cheeseburger doesn’t require a lot of cooking power).
But could there be a BETTER meaning?
Unless you are going to go ask them, (and prove yourself right or wrong) why not?
If eating certain foods can (even though it’s a bit more difficult) keep us healthier, and even ALIVE longer, what about thinking specific thoughts?
Choosing specific, or at least, more helpful meanings.
Certainly, it’s not easy, it’s not automatic, and it takes effort.
Just like choosing healthy food to put in our body isn’t easy, isn’t automatic, and takes effort.
But the benefits are enormous.
Health, long life, more happiness, better sleep, better (more) sex.
What is the MOST IMPORTANT meaning you can choose for your ENTIRE LIFE?
The meaning you apply to yourself.
This is the “meaning” you project to the world, all the time.
The meaning YOU give to yourself will impact every decision, every relationship, and ever act you make.
Sadly, most of us have meanings that were GIVEN to them by others.
And we just accepted them.
But we don’t need to.
We can shrug them off, and choose different meanings.
It’s not easy, it’s not automatic, and it takes effort.
But it very well could be the MOST IMPORTANT decision you ever make.