Most people have a certain amount of social anxiety.
Meaning that few people feel entirely comfortable around others.
If you define “total comfort” as how you feel when you are alone, and can say and do anything without worrying, then EVERYBODY has a form of “social anxiety.”
Everybody has things they feel comfortable saying and doing when they are alone, that they would NEVER do around others.
For example, have you ever been “caught” signing in the car?
You’re favorite tune is on, your belting it out along with the band, but then you glance around and somebody right next to you is watching you.
Few people would continue EXACTLY as they were before they were “caught.”
Even if you smile to yourself and change your volume, even slightly, you are responding because of social anxiety.
Sure, it may be perfectly acceptable social anxiety, but the structure is the same.
It’s also that same that keeps us from fully expressing ourselves the way we want.
Any time you have an idea in your head, and you imagine expressing it a certain way, but it comes out “differently” the inhibiting factor is social anxiety.
Social = You are around other people
Anxiety = An uncomfortable feeling of worry
Just that when people say, “I have social anxiety,” we assume they mean debilitating levels.
Like they can’t even go outside, or they vomit when they think of talking to attractive people.
But the truth is that EVERYBODY has anxiety of SOME level, whenever thinking about behaving socially.
It’s human nature.
Which is a good place to start from when intending to persuade anybody.
Because in order to persuade somebody, you have to put things in terms that they can understand.
(Unless you are using the, “do it my way or else” strategy).
Which means they have to be COMFORTALBE sharing with you something about what they want.
But most people, when you ask them, “What do you want?” aren’t going to feel comfortable telling you.
Even people who have been in intimate relationships have trouble telling each other what they want.
Luckily, there is a very EASY way to get them thinking about what they want.
A simple question process, which when used correctly, doesn’t even require that they speak.
Which means you can get deep inside their mind, and find their most treasured desires.
And since they’ll feel comfortable thinking and talking about those deepest desires with YOU, they’ll start to subconsciously associate those two things.
Their deepest desires and you.