I’ve been the best man a couple of times at weddings.
Both times, after giving the toast, it was a blast.
First, you’re wearing a tuxedo. Second, if you’ve given a halfway decent toast, everybody knows you.
Also, you feel like you have an “obligation” to mingle.
Which means you can “operate” pretty effectively. Work the crowd. Start conversations with attractive strangers.
Since it’s expected, and you’re part of the wedding party, there is ZERO CHANCE of getting rejected.
Now, here’s an interesting idea on human nature.
People will treat us EXACTLY like we treat ourselves.
If we think we suck, people will treat us AS IF we suck.
It’s as if we humans have this sixth sense. We see somebody approaching, and we’re sure what to do.
So we look for evidence to help us. If the person is smiling, confident and relaxed, and acting like they truly LIKE THEMSELVES, we are much more likely to like them.
On the other hand, if they are nervous, closed off and look like they’re scared of something, we will get scared as well.
Imagine how easy it would be to talk to people if you’re job was to give away hundred dollar bills.
Imagine if you had to approach however many people you wanted to and said your name.
If they said their name, you’d give them a hundred bucks and walk away. But if they didn’t, you wouldn’t give them anything, and walk away.
Pretty easy job, right?
Just doing this job for a few days would make you LOVE people.
Now suppose that you VALUED YOURSELF at more than a hundred bucks.
That you TRULY BELIEVED that somebody interacting with you was worth MORE than a hundred dollars.
And not only that, but THEY believed it ONLY BECAUSE you believed it.
How enjoyable would life be?
Pretty enjoyable! You would LOVE to meet new people.
And people would LOVE to meet you.
The truth is that “meaning” is pretty flexible.
And with consistent practice, you can “build up” how much you VALUE yourself.
So every time you do start a conversation with a stranger, you sincerely believe you are PROVIDING value to them.
This is easy to do with practice.
So start practicing. Click here to learn how.