If you’ve ever been to any kind of NLP seminar, there’s a lot of pair work.
The instructor will explain a few things, maybe call somebody up to the front, and then demonstrate.
Then he or she will have people get into pairs.
This is usually pretty awkward and slow at the beginning. Especially if there a few hundred people.
But if the seminar is more than a couple days, then it gets easier and easier.
Pretty soon, when the instructor says, “OK, partner up,” and it gets really loud really quick.
Most people take a while to “warm up” to other people.
One of the things about our brains is we tend to generalize.
Meaning that once you figure out how to do something, you can “generalize” that behavior to other similar things.
Tying your shoes, riding a bike, shopping in a supermarket, you learn to do these for ONE thing (shoes, bike, store, etc) you can do that will ALL things (all shoes, all bikes, all stores, etc).
But why not with people?
Interacting with people is in a special class. Because we come with a lot of baggage.
Not only from our childhoods, but from our ancient history.
For the longest part of human history, we rarely interacted with strangers.
That is a pretty recent development.
Luckily, with a little NLP magic, we can “go meta.” Meaning we can train ourselves to thinking of meeting people just like tying our shoes.
Once you have the experience of “getting comfortable with strangers” which you’ve already done countless times in your life, you can switch your brain around.
So the next time you see a stranger, instead of feeling anxiety, you can feel relaxed confidence.
Instead of “wondering” if they’ll “accept or reject” you, you’ll feel the familiar sense of “meeting and getting to know people.”
Of course, our brains don’t naturally “go meta,” it’s something we have to learn to do.
But since you’ve learned lots of other things (I KNOW you’ve learned how to read, for example) you can learn to “go meta” as well.
Which will make meeting NEW people feel familiar.
Luckily, if you want to increase your social confidence, it’s as easy as doing some simple daily exercises.
Just like you would believably be able to do a hundred pushups if you gave yourself enough time, you can develop a ton of social confidence in the same way.
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