When I was a kid everybody was into skateboarding.
And we all had our own “custom” skateboards.
Certain kinds of wheels, the board itself, the bearings.
There was one surf-skate shop me and my friends would hang out downtown.
When we were both saving up our money to buy our next board.
We’d look over all the choices and put other the ideal board.
Same when we were buying Vans.
You could have them custom make all the colors.
They had this big book of fabric you could look through and pick all the different swatches for the different parts of your shoes.
Being able to put together a custom set of ANYTHING is pretty cool.
Sometimes we take it for granted, like ordering a meal at a restaurant.
Because it’s “normal” we don’t get excited about being able to choose between fries and a baked potato.
But other areas, we don’t even consider that we have choice.
If you look closely, however, you’ll see that we ALWAYS have choice.
Or almost always.
You can’t really choose to be taller.
But you can choose pretty much everything else about who “you” are.
Most people don’t think of things like social skills, communication skills or charisma as something we can “custom order.”
We tend to think of it like height or how much hair we have.
But if you look just below the surface, there is much more choice than most people realize.
It’s not quite the same from picking swatches out of a book and waiting for your custom made personality to come in the mail.
But you CAN build it however you like.
All you need is a model.
Somebody to copy.
After all, modeling (or copying) is how you learned a LOT of things.
Walking, talking, etc.
And if you’re going to model some folks to custom build a better personality (or better social skills or persuasion skills or leadership skills or WHATEVER skills) you may as well choose the most outrageous.
You can always “dial back” the parts that are too much.
And fine tune the PERFECT set of skills.