Do you remember what it was like when you were a kid, and and you got a new toy? It was a cool thing, you couldn’t wait to go and run to your friends so that you could share this with them? You might have even brought it to school for a few days until your teacher told you it would be best left at home?
What about when you saw a really good movie? And and you couldn’t wait to tell all your friends about this? Word of mouth advertising has always been an integral part of many products on many levels.
Imagine what you felt like when you had a friend that brought something to you. They were happy and excited, and wanted to share a new toy or idea with you. How did that make you feel? If you are like most people. you were moved to excitement more by your friends enthusiasm than the actual toy or comic book he wanted to show you.
That’s one of great things that you naturally are skilled at. Being able to share an emotion with somebody and have them reflect that emotion back to you without any conscious thought. If you present and share that emotion congruently, they almost can’t help to reflect it back to you. ThisÂ holds true for all emotions. Imagine a time when somebody shared aÂ sad emotion with you.Â Did you feelÂ sad as well, atÂ a little bit? I’m not talking aboutÂ those people that are always complaining, looking forÂ fake sympathy from others. I’m talking about somebody who is suffering from real emotional pain. When you hear them describe their experience, you can’t help being moved as well.
That is one ofÂ the reasons we like movies and stories so much.Â There is nothing like a good tear jerker or inspirational drama to capture and lead your emotions around.Â This idea has been around for a long time.Â The Greeks realizedÂ thisÂ with their many plays, andÂ their word for it, catharsis, is still used today toÂ describe an emotional experienceÂ achieved byÂ hearing or watching somebody else’s, usually through drama or sometimes music.
WhatÂ emotions are you sharing with others, and what emotions are you picking up from others? Sadness? Happiness? Gratitude. When you keep in mind thatÂ others can reflect your ownÂ emotions back to you, a goodÂ idea is to reflect an appreciation.Â But not just your garden variety appreciation for the birds and the wind and the money in your pocket. That will get you a reflection for more appreciation for the birds andÂ the windÂ and the money in your pocket, which is great, but what happens if you, as Emeril Lagasse says “kick it up a notch?”
What if you walk through life radiating a deep and honest appreciation for yourself? What if you could share a love for yourself like you shared that new toy when you were a kid? What if you had an honest gratitude for who you are, and ran around saying “Hey everybody, look at this! Isn’t this cool?” Just like everybody wanted to run over and play with your new toy, what if everybody came running today, andÂ wanted to experienceÂ with the new you that you find so cool?
This is not a overfilled ego demanding attention. This is the expression of the deep, honest, appreciation that you will undoubtedly feel for yourself when you really examine the miracle that is you. You owe the world that much.