You’ve seen them on Oprah. You’ve seen “The Secret” in bookstores, websites, maybe even in TV commercials. You’ve probably even read “The Secret” or watched the DVD, or at the veryÂ leastÂ some of the manyÂ other “Law of Attraction” videos on Youtube. (Personally I recommend Abraham Hicks.Â Those are awesome).
Are you rich?Â Do you have so much money you need to hire people to take care of it for you? Are you so incrediblyÂ charismatic that you attract the opposite sex as if youÂ had hundred dollar bills falling out of your pockets? Do you eat bucket after bucket of ice cream and still manage to show off your six pack abs? Do you wish Larry King and Barbara Walters would just leave you alone for once and find somebody else to interview on TV?
Ok, me neither.
I am, however, going to give you three tips,Â so when you practice these onÂ a regular basis, not only willÂ they will slowly (but surely)Â transform your life into what you want to create, (rather than end up with,) but they will give you incredibly self esteem and confidence. One of the fantastic side effects of these techniques is that they will skyrocket your confidence and self esteemÂ to levels unheard of in common people.
Ready? Lets go.
Step Number One: Set a Clear Goal.
Ok, you’ve heard this one a bazillion times before. But what does it really mean? If you don’t spend at least several hours journaling and thinking and rejournaling your goal, you aren’t putting in enough effort. And I don’t mean some small goal, like “I want to lose give pounds,” or “I want to get a 5% raise at work.” Dream big. Think big. Live big. Think of your dream career, or what your dream life would be, and describe it in as much detail as follows. What do you see?Â What do you feel, What do you taste and smell? Describe in as much sensory detail as possible, and describe it in the present tense. Some examples:
I enjoy my career as a film editor, working from my spacious and paid for home andÂ enjoying free time to spend with loved ones.
I enjoy my ideal weight of one hundred and forty pounds, and easily run a 10K in less than forty minutes, every weekend.
I enjoy a fantastic mutually supportive relationship based on trust, communication, and sexual and emotional intimacy.
Get the idea? Keep going through this until when you read your statement, you get “that” feeling that tells you that this is what you really want.
Step Number Two: Visualize Your Goal Every Morning
Sit somewhere quiet, and say your goal out loud, and while you do so, close your eyes and visualize everything that you described. Anything that must require your goal to already be achieved is what you want to see. And see as many different pictures as possible. Hear as many different sounds as possible, taste and feel as many tastes and feelings as possible. The more you see, feel, hear, taste, smell, the more powerful you will program your brain with this. Be sure to visualize pictures that require your goal being already true to exist. For the film editor, see yourself in your house, doing film editing stuff. Hear people telling you over the phone what a great job you did on that last project. See your name up in lights if that’s what you want. Do this every morning for at least five minutes per clearly statedÂ goal.
StepÂ Number Three:Â Feel Gratitude for the Steps You’veÂ Taken
BeforeÂ bed every night, say your goal again.Â ScanÂ your memory of that particular day, and feel gratitude FOR YOURSELF for taking any action you tookÂ day in the direction of your goal. If you haven’t doneÂ anything, feel gratitude that you meditated on your goal that morning.Â Even if you did something accidentally (that is if you still believe in accidents) that moved you toward your goal,Â give yourself thanks for that.Â The key here is to feel genuine and honest gratitude FOR YOURSELF for every small thing you did. Do this every night for at least five minutes per clearly statedÂ goal.
When you do these steps consistently you will notice that your life will magically change, as you do things that you used to not do, but now seem normal that are pushing and pulling you toward your dream life. And the cool thing is, the only work you really have to do is in step one, where you spend a few hours hammering out a really clearly defined goal. Once that is out of the way, it’s pretty much an exercise in putting your brain on auto pilot.
I would recommend only starting out with one big solid goal. Once you’ve got that ironed out, and you are spending your ten daily minutes (five at night and five in the morning) you can add more goals. I wouldn’t recommend having any more than five or six major goals at once, so be sure to spread them out over different areas of life. Money, Love, Work, Spirituality, Health. Once you’ve got a goal in each of these areas that you are meditating on twice a day, you’ll be amazed how much incredible purpose your life will take on. And others will notice as well.