One of the most commonÂ emails IÂ receive from people that have benefited from reading myÂ articles is how it helpsÂ to be able toÂ see things differently in life.Â People can really begin to realize the abundance of life when you simply look aroundÂ at the things that you normally see in a newÂ light. Viewing things from a different perspective is not only liberating from whatever prison that you’ve built for yourself, but it can liberate others as well. And as I’m sure you know, liberating others is one ofÂ the greatest joys of being fully human.
One technique that has helped me enormously in this regard isÂ the power of perspective. This is really nothing moreÂ that imagining you are in somebody else’s shoes. I’m sure you’ve heard that before you judge someone, walk a mile in their shoes. The reason this simple sayingÂ has spanned many generations and cultures is because it is one ofÂ the mostÂ fundamentallyÂ sound principles that can really open up human communication.
Now the tricky part. How exactly do you do that? You can’t very wellÂ go and physically borrow theÂ otherÂ person’s shoes. One way toÂ do thisÂ is to imagine that you are actually watching yourself when you areÂ talking to otherÂ people.Â Next time you are having aÂ conversation with somebody, while you are talking, really imagine that you are watching yourselfÂ out ofÂ the other persons eyes. If you can findÂ a partner to practice doing this with, fantastic.Â Otherwise,Â I would advise at the very least doing this with a friendÂ whom you areÂ comfortable with.Â When you do this at first, it can seem a little strange imagining that you are watching yourself from the eyes of the person you are talking to. After you practice this a few times, you’ll be surprised at what you see, and you won’t be able to helpÂ changing how you communicate with others, if only a little bit.
Once you master this, you can begin to imagine seeing other things from even more expanded perspectives. And the greatest thing about this is once you start to practice onÂ a regular basis, you’ll be thinking of new ways to apply this idea almost automatically. And that can help in more ways than you can imagine.