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How To Remember Names Easily And Automatically

Mrs. Big Hair

Once I was at this party, and I was with a friend of mine, actually a date. I saw some guy that I’d met before; at least I think I’d met him before. We did that bit of recognition when you make eye contact with somebody that you know. An almost instantaneous acknowledgment of who they are. As soon as we did that, he came over. Then, to my horror, I realized that I not only didn’t remember where I knew this guy from, but that I also couldn’t recall his name. Not even a first letter.

For a few seconds, I hoped he was the kind of guy that just walks up and introduces himself, regardless of the situation, like some politician running for office, or the host of the party, or something. No dice. He walked, greeted me, (using my name of course) and then stood there waiting for me to introduce him to my date. Of course, my date, not knowing anyone at the party, was patiently waiting for me to introduce her to him.

One of the most common complaints that people have about their memories is an inability to remember names. The trick (that I didn’t learn until after that embarrassing moment at party) is two fold. One is an understanding of how memory works, and the other is a simple trick that you easily learn and put into place so you’ll never have trouble remembering names again.

The way memory works is that it’s not passive, unless it is for life or death information. Let’s say you’re walking through the jungle (back during our evolutionary past), and happen to look up at a banana tree. All of a sudden a group of ferocious monkeys swing down, beat you up, and chase you away. You’ll likely have no trouble remembering that spot, aided by the presence of the banana tree, as a no no in the future. You wouldn’t have to go back to your cave, and review you notes of the day and drill yourself so you’d remember where the safe places were, and where the dangerous place were. It would be automatic.

Likewise, if you were huffing it across the desert, and saw strange looking tree, and upon arrival at the tree found a source of an underground stream, you wouldn’t have any problems remembering where the stream was. Remembering where a hidden source of water in the desert is much easier than remembering where you parked at the airport.

So our memory is only passive when it comes to life and death. We somehow know that when we take classes in school. We listen attentively to the boring lecture, and know we have to study and drill the information into our brain before a test. We can’t just sit there passively listening to the lecture and soak it all up without a problem (at least most of us can’t). So why do we think we can remember names without putting in any effort? Who knows. The key is to realize that we need to remember names just like we’d study and remember information for a test. We have to consciously input the information into our brains in a specific way so it will make it easier to find them later.

When we listen to a lecture, we usually take notes, and then study for our notes later. You’d look kind of silly at a party walking around with a pencil and a small notebook writing down everything people said to you. They would think you were some kind of reporter or something. Since writing the information down is out, we need a better trick to remember names.

The trick is to apply a mnemonic device, like “all good boys eat cows”, or however it goes for remembering the musical scales. That reason I can’t really remember that is because it’s lacking an emotional component. Remember the deadly banana tree and the hidden water source? Both those came pre filled with a strong emotional component. We need to use those when creating our mnemonic devices. Here’s how you construct an emotionally laden mnemonic for remembering names:

A visualization of the person + a visualization of their name + a funny picture connecting them together = remembered name.

When you first meet somebody, you need to think of one visual thing about them that stands out. This is only private, so it can be as goofy or as derogatory as you can imagine. You won’t be sharing this with anybody, and it’s only to help you remember their name, so whatever you come up with is OK. Let’s say you meet somebody, and the first thing you notice about them is that they have big hair. So before you hear their name, you can think of them as Mr. Or Ms big hair. Now when you hear their name, simply think of a picture to associate with their name. Let’s say their name is Lynne. So you run “Lynne” through your mind until you can think of an easily to visualize item that will help you recall “Lynne.”

Lets’ see… Lynne… Lynne… Lint! Lint from the dryer, all over your clothes. Now you simply attach “lint” and “big hair,” and what do you have? Some poor woman whose hair is filled with lint. So now every time you see this woman, you’ll immediately think of “big hair,” and “lint,” and you’ll have her name in a heartbeat. The funny thing about this is that you only have to go through this process of remembering all the pictures (which really only takes a couple seconds) once or twice. After that, their names will be automatic.

The best time to do this is within a few moments after you meet them, whenever you get a second. Picture associated with the person, picture associated with their name, and hook them together somehow. The crazier, the funnier, the more derogatory, and more sexual you can make either picture, will make it much more easy to remember. If you make your pictures boring, like “all cows eat grass,” it won’t be so easy to remember.

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Oh, and at the party, I suddenly remembered where I knew the guy from. His name was Mike, and I’d met him a couple weeks earlier at a toastmasters meeting.

Memory Improvement Techniques You Can Use TODAY – For FREE

There are many products on the market today on how to improve your memory. Some are herbal remedies, which are supposed to increase the ease with which your neural networks can effectively work together. Others are more chemically oriented and work through stimulation of the mind. There are several brain-enhancing concoctions you can buy are your local health food store, or online that have been shown to enhance, at least temporarily, your working memory.

Others are non-chemical, and work by manipulating your brainwaves to a better state of memory production and recall. These are somewhat interesting, and I’ve used them with a great deal of success. These work in two different ways. Both involve using sound waves to guide your brain waves into an optimal state.

The first method is used to guide brainwaves into an optimal state while you are actually learning or studying that which you’d like to easily recall later. While this is very effective, it requires the ability to listen to a CD or an MP3 while studying. This is fantastic if you are studying written material, but for anything else, such as a lecture, or a skill, which requires outward focus and dexterity, this can be less than efficient.

The other method is to listen to the same kind of mind programming sound, but during “off” times, when you are not studying. The theory behind this method is the sound slowly restructures and strengthens your neural connections so that later when you do want to recall something, it is much easier. While this takes a bit longer, and has much more subtle effect, it can be a good way to slowly increase both your short term and long term memory.

The next method, and in my experience by far the most effective, is choosing how you store the memories you’d like to remember. How some is inputted into your neural network has a huge effect on how easy it is to recall it later. Curiously, this simple method is not taught in school, where it would do the most good.

It works like this. Instead of staring at a piece of information, and trying to force it into your memory through sheer will power, there is a much easier way. Specifically, you use the power of your imaginative memory. The brain naturally remembers things easier if they stand out. The brain takes all incoming information, and immediatley sorts it according to relevance. Things that it determines is relevant, it tags somehow to make that particular piece of information easier to recall at a later date.

So the trick is to put the information in a way so your brain will tag the information as relevant. This is easily done with colorful, comedic pictures and images coupled with sex and pain. Sex is the number one desire of the human brain, and pain is the number one “away from” motivating factor. Whenever you add these two elements, along with an interesting picture, it will be very hard to forget.

For example, lets say you are studying a foreign language. You want to learn the word for apple in Japanese, which is ringo. So you say to yourself, “ringo, ringo,” until a picture appears. Ringo Starr. So you create an image that involves Ringo Starr, apples (the key to attach all this to) sex, and pain. For example, you might imagine you are at a Beatles concert, and the part of the bass drum that actually hits the drum (that big round white thing) is a large apple. And every time Ringo steps on the bass pedal, the apple slams into the drum making the “thump thump thump” sound.

If that is not a vivid enough picture, you can add in some sex and pain to make sure you recall it. Like maybe he is surrounded by beautiful playboy bunnies, who are naked of course, and every time you try and approach on of them they throw apples at you and hitting you in the face every time.

This might sound a bit too cumbersome to try at first, but after you discover how easy it is to recall something that you’ve inputted this way, you’ll never go back to the old ways of memory again.