One time I was hanging out with a group of friends one night in a hotel lobby.
One of us mentioned he would like to be more socially outgoing.
Another one of us asked him a couple of questions, and then started talking.
For a few minutes, we just listened to this guy talk.
I had not clue what was going on.
Later I realized he was using Ericksonian Hypnosis.
Using NLP and bunch of other patterns to rearrange the guys fears.
Flipping them back on themselves.
The evening was pretty interesting after that.
When people think of being a charismatic conversationalist, there are two extremes to achieve this.
One is to forget yourself completely, and ask directed questions to your listener.
To expand the things they like, and get them talking in specific detail about things that light up their imagination.
Of course, there are limitations to this.
Make no mistake, it is an INCREDIBLY powerful way to get somebody SUPER EXCITED in a very short amount of time.
But the main drawback is you can only use it on ONE person at a time.
AND you have to be talking about things that are “OK” to talk about.
Which makes it PERFECT for sales.
But if you’re in any kind of social situation, where it’s not really appropriate to focus ONLY on one person, (and you might want to ask them things you’re not supposed to ask them about), what then?
Then you shift to the OTHER END of the spectrum.
Where you talk, and they listen.
Luckily, there is a systematic way to build up the things you talk about.
You’ll still be talking about normal things, but you’ll be talking about them in a way that will have everybody on the edge of their seat.
Hanging on every word.
What’s even better is you don’t HAVE to use this “system” on groups.
You can use it on individuals with just as must effect.
People you know, people you don’t.
All of it, or some of it.
And once you see the world through this communication model, nothing will ever look the same.